When we see someone who appeals to us sexually, the activity of tear glands increases automatically and the eyes get that shiny glow. At the same time the pupils dilate. That's the whole secret of the 'lover's look'!

Don't blink during eye contact. Fluttering eyelids are a sign of shyness, nervousness or a lack of self-confidence. If you want to send out the message that you're serious, always look into the other person's eyes just a little longer than they looks into yours. Looks can be emphasized by casting them from under lowered eyelids or the corner of the eye. Glancing over the shoulder can have a dramatic effect. But, remember: the seductive look must be genuine, a convincing imitation can be kept up for 15 seconds at the most!

Woman, look at the man with your eyes partly closed just long enough for him to notice, then turn your eyes away. For most men, being peeped at is exciting!

Man, don't shift your gaze around, otherwise you'll be taken for a lady killer. Squint and raise your eyebrows simultaneously when you look at the woman. Let your eyes say to her: "You were meant for me!"

If you are shy and don't want to be drawn into the eye contact, focus your eyes between the eyebrows of the other person; you will seem to be looking straight into their eyes.

The wink is a classic. It's a sign of playfulness and daring. It works always and it is universally recognized. Except in Hong Kong, where it is interpreted as a sign of discourtesy.